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Valentines Day is less than a week away. I was speaking to a friend the other day, and she was beating herself up because she wasn’t in a relationship.  She didn’t have a thing positive to say about herself or her situation. I believe before you can be in a healthy relationship where there is balance, you must love yourself first. Ask yourself the question, would you want to date you… Yep, think about it. You attract what you are, if you don’t feel good about yourself, you will not find your equal.

 We all have our insecurities, issues and problems in life. There is a common dominator of the final result and that is you. If you are single this Valentines Day, don’t pout, reflect and really analyze and understand what you want in your life and your relationship. There are many factors as to why you are single. It could be you.  Check out Nikki Nokes 2 new book, Maybe…It’s You  

she analyzes the reasons why women stay single.  What ever the reason is, dig deep be honest with yourself and then learn to love yourself. There is noting more sexy than confidence, Go get some!

Here are some ways to learn to love yourself.

Celebrate your qualities – write down everything that you love about yourself and why. Then write down what you would like to change and why. Take one at a time and set goals for yourself.

Meditate – this personal time and space is important to find your center and stay grounded. There are many distractions, your purpose is to get focused on your fabulous self and learn to live and love your life, who wouldn’t want to join in on the fun.

Get pampered– If it’s shopping, getting your hair done or a facial, whatever leaves you relaxed and feeling good, go do it. Either go by yourself or with friends who support you.  I repeat supportive friends who have your best interest at heart.

 Pep talk – Tell yourself positive affirmations everyday. Just like you take time out to cook, shower, workout, give yourself that pep talk.

 Write – Dare to dream and manifest you want in life. Write it all down in a journal. Make a list, create a story, imagine how you want your life to be and thank the creator when it happens.

 Treat yourself- what is your favorite thing to do? Go do it, if you don’t know, try something new. You will explore new areas of your personality and meet new people.

We are all a work in progress. I have a lot to work on too, but I have realized that a positive attitude with a realistic perspective will keep me happy, confident and balanced.

 What are you doing this Valentines Day?

 xo,

CC